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I wish you could see yourself through the eyes of the world.

You’re so damn powerful. The way you walk into a room and command it without even knowing it.

The way people look at you, enticed by your mystery, badassery and femininity.

The very energy of YOU is intoxicating, and you don’t even have to try, girl.

I see you, boss bitch, continually demanding the best of yourself on a daily basis and slaying the dragons inside you that want to stop and slow you down.

You put yourself out there- for you, for your dreams, for your big soul mission.

You do what most think they cannot but really they just won’t.

They don’t have the discipline to kick their own ass the way you do.

The only reason the word bitch is appropriate next to boss is because you own the parts of you that are unapologetic about who you are, what you stand for and what you want.

Sometimes that means being a “bitch.”

You’re not afraid to jump into the unknown even when it is scary as hell.

You are used to saying yes first and thinking later.

You’ve proven to yourself over and over just how magical you are.

You are used to people looking up to you, and wondering how you make it all look so damn easy.

But the reality is that most of the time you’re still doubting yourself, arguing constantly inside about your worthiness.

About IF you actually deserve everything you have and still want.

You seem to have it all on the outside, but the truth is you feel incomplete ALMOST EVERY DAMN DAY.

I see you, boo.

You do a helluva job at hiding it, working through it, and choosing again and again to trust even when it seems impossible.

It’s not money. Maybe part of it is love. But, really, it’s something MORE.

It’s an instinct you needed as a child to survive.

Something you have chosen to hold onto because you’re too afraid to do this all alone –

To unleash the true essence and impact of your POWER
To trust blindly in you.

Maybe that little girl inside you feels safer that way.

Maybe its the only way you feel you belong at times.

But here’s the thing, and I know you know this:

As long as you keep holding onto IT, you’ll never feel complete, worthy, or enough.

You’ll spend the rest of your life reaching heights most can only dream of, but you’ll still feel a huge gaping hole inside you.

No amount of money, material possessions or attention will ever fill it.

Can I tell you what that is? Right now right here?

It’s probably not what you’re thinking.

Yes, the subconscious mind. Yes, the mindset. Yes, the habits, etc etc.

But really?

It’s comparison. It’s competition.

It’s a coding inside you that when your defenses are down, SCREAMS, reminding you, as if you were still a child, that guidance and direction to navigate this life can only come from an outside source.

Taking away your OWN authority. Believe it or not, you already know this.

Like when you were a little girl and had to do what your parents said regardless of how you felt or what you really wanted.

That little girl felt helpless, having to rely on constant direction from someone and something other than what was inside her impulsively wanting to do whatever she felt like doing despite it being right or wrong in the eyes of anyone.

When you were a little girl, it was natural for you to look to others for guidance, direction and authority.

You watched how your parents, siblings and people of the world moved, responded and reacted to life.

You figured out quickly that you could insert your own twist to make them feel and seem more your way, but fundamentally, you were still comparing, competing and looking for direction from outside yourself.

Eventually, something clicked in you –

A bad experience
Lack of parenting
Absent mother/father

You know better than anyone what that was.

At that moment, you decided in your core that doing it on your own was too scary, irresponsible and not right.

You decided that the voice inside you was too much and couldn’t be fully trusted.

You’ve chosen to follow that voice more and more through your personal development and growth, but a part of you still holds on to it with your fingers clawing at it like your life depends on it.

You decided that that’s the way life would be:

Look around. Make choices based on what others are doing. Insert your own twists.

Repeat the comparing and competing to ensure you’re still human, normal, doing IT right – whatever that means.

Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

“Am I doing it right, God?!”

Every new level looks differed, but you’re doing the same shit, and you know it.

Allowing yourself to fall out of alignment over and over, knowing damn well what you’re thinking, feeling and doing do not serve your higher purpose.

Not following your own compass. Not listening to your soul.

People like you, like us, only reach true freedom when you release this, don’t you see?

It may very well be the only damn thing you still haven’t mastered: stop comparing yourself!!!

Look in the mirror, look into your own eyes and take back ALL of your authority.

Tell that little girl that you got this.

The world can be a big scary place, but the internal compass inside you is all you need to navigate it.

You don’t need to keep looking around for direction or guidance.

You don’t need to look to a damn person, place or thing to KNOW if your way is right, aligned and on purpose. You just don’t!

You know this….

You don’t have to keep choosing to be half in and half out when it comes to listening to your soul.

Go. All. In.

Tell that little girl that looking around is no longer necessary because all of the answers you crave, seek and want most are already inside you.

Tell that little girl that the attention another men, more likes, comments for shares is never going to fill the emptiness.

Stop apologizing for being you, having what you have and wanting MORE.

Pretend that the world exists only to serve your purpose and work in your favor.

Remind yourself that everything and everyone in it are just props and that you get to do this life EXACTLY how you want – every minute, hour, day…..

Remind yourself that you’re a boss bitch: a woman missioned with challenging her limits, impacting the world and showing others how to do it for themselves.

A boss bitch doesn’t compare or compete because she fully owns that her way is her way and it’s not supposed to look, feel or taste like anyone else’s way.

That’s the fucking point, is it not?

To skip to your own rhythm.

To march to your own beat.

To follow your craziness.

To be as wild and free as you need.

To unleash everything WAITING inside you.

To make shit happen simply because you said so. Your way or no way.

Remember –

Life is a game. Break all the rules.

xo -V